The Benefits of Single Online Dating Sites

There are several benefits of single online dating sites that attract people to using them. Contrary to a popular belief held by some people that those that use online dating sites cannot get a partner elsewhere, such sites tend to be used by those too busy to lead a full social life. They are unable to get out and about, so use dating sites as others would use a club or pub.

Many are full time professionals, working work long hours, and yet others work every evening and also night shifts. They are working when most others are out enjoying themselves and meeting people, and need some other avenue where they can make social contact. Many visitors to singles sites and online dating agencies are highly intelligent and very good looking people who have been unable to find a suitable partner from the small circle in which they have the time to be involved, and want to see what us available in the wider world.

Single online dating sites are ideal for such people, but also for others who have had similar problems finding a suitable partner, but for different reasons. Some live in remote locations, where a visit to the cinema is a mini expedition. If your nearest night club is 100 miles away, what do you do? Yet others are shy, and find it hard to talk face to face with the opposite sex or even the same sex since single dating agencies offer their services to people of all sexual persuasions.

These probably cover the main benefits: they offer a service to people who are unable to meet others for one reason or another and the opportunity to come into contact with other like-minded people with the same problems. Here are a few more benefits of single online dating sites:

1. They are anonymous, and so good for those that feel self conscious or are afraid of being rejected. You can use a false name and the contact services provided by the online dating agency. In fact you are encouraged to do so, because you should never provide your real details, especially an address, email or geographical, until you have met and are absolutely certain of the person with whom you are communicating.

2. They generally have a large database of people in the same situation as you are. They too want to find a partner, and are likely just as nervous as you are at the whole
process of doing so. They are fine when they have finally found one, but the finding can be a bit daunting and worrying for them. So don't think you are alone: you are definitely not!

3. The 'Profile' service allows you to screen people before finally being given a selection that meets your requirements, but try not to be too picky in these requirements. It's OK to say you prefer a blue eyed blond, but if you also require her to be 5 foot 6 inches tall with hair down to her shoulder blades and to love Dvorjak and dogs, then you are pretty well restricting yourself to a very narrow choice. You need to have some screening, because it's no use you, as a virtual alcoholic, dating a dedicated prohibitionist, but try not to be too restrictive with it.

4. Single online dating services enable you to chat to people online and get to know them before you have to meet them. You should chat to as many as possible that meet your main criteria, and it is fine to be chatting to several at the same time. There's no two-timing online, and it is recognized as the best way to find a suitable partner. Once you meet somebody online that you feel you get along with, then you can perhaps arrange to meet.

Be careful when you agree to meet, because not all people are truthful: in fact 30 of women believe that lying on online dating sites is OK. Some people, and this is a good idea, insist on talking via webcam before meeting, so that at least you won't find your 18 year old bombshell to be a 55 year old pervert. These things happen, and you should be aware of it. Sweeping them under the carpet doesn't help, and more online dating sites should warn you of the fact and many do, in fact bring the security of online dating sites to your attention.

If you take care and follow all the rules given to you by your chosen single online dating site, then you should be able to find the person of your dreams safely and have a lot of fun while doing so.

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A Comprehensive Guide to Online Dating

Internet can be compared to an ocean, which hides in its depths myriads of thinkable and unthinkable things. This is an ocean, indeed, the ocean of information concerned with all possible aspects of our life. And as such, the virtual space of world wide web is linked directly to our material world. Hence, you can pull out of www almost everything you want: music, movies, clothes, furniture, tropical cruises, cars, philosophical concepts and real love: your boyfriend or girlfriend. Important is just to know what kind of fish (or, perhaps, mermaid or merman) you want to catch from these "waters", how to choose right nets, where to deploy them, what kind of bait to use, and when mermaids/mermen come, how to get one without scaring her (or him) away.

The anonymity of the www can go so deep, that you may flirt on-line with a real mermaid while thinking that this is just a girl. How you can tell? Well, note if she knows well about fish and whales, likes to sing and (beware!) proposes you to meet her on a beach or seashore.

Now, seriously, no scales! For start, and now I am talking about finding your best half on-line, you have to set your mind for the quest. This is a most important starting point: set your mind on who you want to find, to date, to love! Everything else will be derived from this point. Usually people are finding what they are looking for - this is a law of the Universe. So, before getting into this quest, you need to set your goals. To make things easy, best of all is to prepare a list, which will help you to determine what are the major features that you want to find in her or him, what kind of things you may accept or ignore, and, finally, what you really would like to avoid.

The technical approach to your search can be done either by placing your profile on the dating/matchmaking site, by looking through posted profiles and contacting those whom you found interesting, and finally (the best approach) by doing both and using different networks. However, most important is to do all that right!

When you are posting your profile, describe yourself briefly but precisely, i.e. avoid any ambiguities. Present your personal virtues, interests and life priorities. Your photo must be of high quality, large, recent (important!) and really showing the original (the picture of yourself in scuba gear taken from a passing-by motor boat would not work for you, even if this is your favorite one). Also, you will save a lot of time for yourself if you openly list all character features, habits, etc. of potential candidates, which are unacceptable for you. "Married chronic junky" are very common rejection keywords, although, you might think to be more specific. Word of caution, though: if you will narrow down your requirements to somewhat as "I am looking for a model, who is also a role model in life", be careful: your potential match can be repelled by a thought that you are driven by some inferiority complex, which makes you too picky.

Don't be shy, if you see a profile, which you really like, contact him or her first. By all means do not send a generic letter. Mention specifics which you like in the profile of this person, what touched you, why you are writing to him or her. However, do not let yourself to be dragged into a long on-line exchange. If you are not seeking a virtual romance (some people do, but this is not what we are discussing here), move to the next step as soon as possible. Give your phone number. However, don't give your phone number to anybody. Better: open separate cell phone account for such calls only. This will cost you less than changing both your home and cell numbers if you will run into some obnoxious drag.

Before actual meeting, you need to talk to the person by a phone: there are several reasons for doing that. First, you need just to hear a voice. Sometimes this may tell you a lot, it can be complete turn-off, but do not put too much into it. I had once a date with a lady who sounded on a phone like a drunken old hag. I almost hang up thinking that I am a victim of a prank, but natural curiosity won, so I set the date, time and place for a meeting. One who sounded so badly on the phone in life appeared young and beautiful girl, who made all men turn their heads when she entered the restaurant. Honestly, my jaw dropped down when I saw her: so much the actual appearance contrasted with the slow and squeaky voice which I've heard on the phone. Second, phone talk may give you an idea on vocabulary and, hence, social position of the person. One young lady, a friend of mine, had a week-long exchange with a guy, who apparently enchanted her with his writings. They decided to meet, so he called her on a phone. When he called, his talk was saturated with so many unnecessary colloquial terms, that she became absolutely convinced not to pursue this acquaintance any further. Needless to say, that the meeting never took place.

Transfer from virtual relationship into a real one is a serious deal. There are no small things there. All is important: where to have a meeting, what to wear, what to talk about, and what better no to talk about too.

So, the place of meeting is important indeed. According to my brief study out of 15 men questioned on the subject, 4 proposed meeting in a church (warm, soothing and inexpensive environment), 3 in cafй, 3 in a restaurant, 2 in night club, 1 invited to his place, 1 offered walk in a park, and one couldn't answer. Perhaps, any place for a first meeting will be good, as long as you would have enough time and space to learn about each other. Thus, church might not be the best choice, considering perhaps different religious backgrounds, and the fact that some people are coming there for speaking to God and not to each other. Meeting outdoors might be OK, as long as weather permits, and there is enough safety and not too much noise, crowd and cars. Perhaps out of all mentioned places cafй, restaurant and night club were the best choices. Advice to ladies: if man having a problem with picking a meeting place or offers you something that you don't really feel comfortable about, propose a meeting at a local museum of art or any other place of this kind. You can always find in such places a small cafй nearby or just a bench
to sit and talk, it is always quiet there, safe and peaceful, and you will be surrounded by beautiful objects of art.

When you are preparing for the first meeting keep in mind, that you are meeting with a stranger. The odds that you will run into Jack the Ripper are next to none, but less dramatic nuisance is still possible. In other words some reasonable safety considerations would not be an extra. The place must not be completely deserted by people (cemeteries, remote parks or abandoned factories are bad choices), there must be a clear way for retreat. It would not hurt you to leave a note to one of your close friends or relatives that you going to a first date with so-and-so (name), and to leave a phone number of this person. Just in case.

The attire should be in accord with the place of a meeting. Important to have not only nice, but comfortable clothing, so you will feel firm.

It is scientifically proven fact, that opinion about a person is usually formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting. In other words, one will never have a chance to make a first impression for the second time. Kindness, calmness and smile - this is what is needed for making a contact and winning the trust.

At the first meeting it is a bad idea to talk about your past wives (or husbands) and lovers, about issues with your health, talk about problems at work or touching any religious subjects. Best approach is to listen more than talk, ask supporting questions. Of course, you have to listen actively, give short phrases or just words, like "Is that right?!", "Yeah, I see", "Interesting". Your task will be to find a topic of mutual interest. Then your date will open and the talk will be sincere.

Now you have to observe. If your date talks only about him(her)self, about his(her) accomplishments, and so on, then, very likely, this person is trying to raise oneself in your eyes. And this is not a good sign. If your date talks a lot and in detail about his(her) past relationships, problems at work, etc., it is quite possible that he (or she) just trying to compensate oneself for the lack of social connections, while you, as a person, are not interesting to him(her) in a bit. One of my on-line dates, whom I finally met at a restaurant, almost didn't touch her meals, but talked in a great detail about her past boyfriend, their break-up and how much she still suffers from it. I understood, that the main reason for this meeting was her need to tell her sad story to somebody else and that's all.

Clearly, the purpose of a first date is to find out: do you like this person and do you want a continuation. If you don't like the person, better not to lie that you will call later, just tell upfront that you think that you made a wrong choice.

If you like one you've just met, but have no idea if this feeling is mutual, there are several ways to figure this out. 1) Before leaving you should say something like: "I really enjoyed my meeting with you. I don't know if you feel the same, but if you like, please, call me or write me. I will be happy to see you again". After that you just have to wait for development. Or, "I really enjoyed my meeting with you. Maybe we can go together to cinema (theater, baseball game, restaurant, museum ...)." This is a good option, because the answer will not be not postponed.

In spite of common (correct) opinion that dating over the Internet is the easiest way to find someone, my personal experience of Internet dating (I've met my wife through Match.com and we live happily ever since) is that this is still a lot of work. Preparing and tuning your profile, writing numerous personal messages, doing search, talks, meetings require certain commitment. Many people are getting sucked into this "game", they cannot stop out of a fear that tomorrow they may meet someone who is smarter, handsomer, better than their current candidate(s). Do not let yourself to be stuck into this state, be pro-active, get yourself out of virtual circle as soon as you can.

Internet became a part of modern culture, and it reflects the society, which created it. It can be good and it can be evil. An opinion, that only losers suffering from inferiority complexes are meeting through the Internet can hurt only those who can mindlessly express such nonsense. Millions of interesting, kind, smart and decent, but lonely people cannot find their match just because they are spending too much time at work and live in well-isolated from strangers environment. Indeed, where one can find his or her match? In a car on a way to/from work, in a grocery store, or, perhaps, at executive meeting? Often dating sites on the web are the only ways to find someone for such people.

Meeting over the Internet makes many things easy. You don't have to go somewhere, seeking right person, think what to say and how to approach. Besides, in a real life such person may not be into dating at all. It is just opposite in the Internet: we contact another people, who have the same goals as ourselves. It is a failure-proof system!

If, for whatever reason you couldn't find someone you are looking for, switch the network (another network likely will have another database of members) or, if tired, take 2-3-week break. Small timeout will help you to regain your determination about meeting someone on-line. Besides, thousands of people join the networks daily, so the "pool" of potential dates changes fast. Just don't give up and don't be discouraged if you will not achieve the desired results immediately. There are no failures, you just getting more experience. Believe in your success, and it will come to you one day. Isn't it a miracle one day to pull out of an ocean a mermaid or merman, who will tell you: I love you!